How to Tell Someone They Are Hurting Your Feelings

By Rosina S Khan

Do you often get hurt by what people say? Don't suffer in silence. Let them know gently and tactfully that they are hurting your feelings. How do you do that? Read on to find out.

Consider the following scenarios:

A lady sits next to you in a bus and comments on your newly dyed hair. You have seen her before on the same bus but you don't like her recent comment. In fact, you think you like the new dye in your hair while the woman said your previous original hair was much better. You feel upset. But you let her know your feelings. Tell her you are disappointed in her comment and that you wanted to try something new for your hair. All of your friends and acquaintances except her have complimented on your new hair style. Tell her directly you deserve an apology from her.

Your mother is looking at the transcript of your completed semester for your undergraduate program. You have got mostly A's, a B and a C. Your mother tells you that you should have worked harder and got all A's. You feel unhappy because you have put your all into your studies and that is the best you could produce. Instead of keeping it in your mind, say it aloud and let your mother hear you. Ask her if you don't deserve credit for such results because your plate was full studying and doing on-campus jobs along with cleaning your apartment for regular cleaning inspections by the authorities.

You have lost weight catering for the needs of your family and maintaining a balance between work and home. One of your relatives comments that you looked better three months ago but now your appearance is rather stressed out and unbecoming. You get fired up at the comment because she has hurt your feelings. You rejoiced privately before meeting this relative that you were back in shape and you could fit into all your previous jeans. You actually celebrated it until this relative comes and destroys your happiness. Tell her directly that you are happy having lost weight and being back in shape. All of your friends and colleagues have wanted to know your secrets because they really like the new YOU so much. You think your relative should shed some weight now and let her know that so that she looks better and can move about freely. You think losing your weight is an asset for you because good health will keep you away from all kinds of diseases. Doesn't she think the same?

Summing up, this is how you address people when they hurt your feelings and you are back to your joyous and jubilant mood and spirit.

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