How To Control People And Circumstances

How To Control People And Circumstances

By James J Elleyby

First of all, let me point this out from the get go! The only person who you can fully control is you! You're in control over what you say, and what you do, and how you think. You're in control over where you go, and how you act. You're in control over if you do it, or if you don't do it.

Follow me closely here and pay full attention now. Because, you don't have direct control over anyone, or anything. But, you can greatly influence and manipulate people and circumstances when you know how to act, and you know what to do. For the very purposes of clarification here, you can control other people simply by controlling your own self! You can also control circumstances, again, by simply controlling your own self.

Something important to note is that physical control over a person who is capable of thinking for their own self is virtually impossible. So, don't be fooled in this department. You might be physically stronger than them, and you may even be able to slap them around for a while, but the truth is, if they have a mind and they are able to think on their own, you do not have the full control over them that you might erroneously believe. Even if you might have a slave, there is still a level of allowance that they are affording to you. You see, because the person whom you are controlling must decide to give you control in the first place. I say all of that, to say this. Brute force is a very unreliable means of controlling another person. Because, the moment you slip up, is the moment you will truly discover that you are, indeed, powerless to control anyone, except your own self!

To control a circumstance, you must understand, that the circumstance is fueled by your own energy. You created the circumstance, so therefore, you are the governor of the circumstance as well.

To control the circumstances, control yourself! Act in such a way that you would desire things to play out. Keep a taller perspective on things.

The upbeat, "pep in the step", cheerful attitude is highly attractive! Friendly, Happy, optimistic demeanors are magnetic in their very nature, because they promote the flow of wellbeing, as they portray innocence, workability, and promise.

If you could just grasp this concept in your mind, that your point of attraction originates from within you, then you would truly realize that it is you whom controls that energetic magnet which draws everything unto you!

Plenty of people won't even dare to consider you romantically if you had a poorly perceived attitude. Authorities, police officers, firefighters, judges, and even doctors will all tend to treat you based upon how you present yourself to them. In other words, if you present yourself with humility and self-love to them, then you are most likely to be treated with profound respect by them! If you present yourself to them as though you are important, then most likely, you will be treated like you are important. Your very presentation alone will encourage even the authorities to carry themselves with the highest degree of professionalism.

On the other hand, if you are going to insist on presenting yourself with an overbearing confidence, a proud character with an unbendable will, then you are most likely to be met with a vigorous force of opposition from those very same authorities! Understand, that this type of demeanor, inadvertently, directly, challenges their authority. So, it is your energy which will encourage them to act like jackasses, and to disregard all of their professional training, because you will send them into a salvage attempt to show you who the real authority is. Don't misunderstand me here. I am not telling you to be weak, to not stand up for your rights, and to allow anyone to just walk all over you. But, what I am telling you is this. You will force them to flex their muscle, if you insist on flexing your muscle.

Don't waste time or energy trying to control other people, or external circumstances. Instead, you only need to simply control your own perfect self! By taking control over your own self, you take control over the situation. If you want the situation to be calm, to be manageable, and to be pleasant, then you must be calm, you must be manageable, and you must be pleasant. This is also how you control other people as well.

Your external circumstances respond to who you are choosing to be. Even more so, everything is one big intricate collaborative sea of energy. We are all, on some level, connected to each other. So, in a sense, what you do to others, you do to yourself. What you do for others, you do for yourself. If you adopt this general principle, you will naturally foster a particular type of humility which will exalt you in just about everything that you do or say.

Let me unravel a little bit of that mystery for you, when I say that we are all, on some level, intricately connected to each other. What great forces could possibly connect us all to each other? Well, for starters, we share one great big sky! We share one great big sun! We even share this great planet together! As a collective whole, it becomes necessary for us to even operate as one being at times, be it for the sake of our own preservation, or the sake for our own entertainment. We share one common language. We don't all need to go to the same places at once, but we share roads, bridges, and tunnels! We produce a single broadcast signal, yet we need that one single signal to be able to reach many different people. Do you understand where I'm going with this? We are all connected on many different levels, including socially, spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and even physically. We must not only be mindful of this fact, but we should also be reverent, sensitive, and responsive to this very real tangible fact! We cannot live and exist alone, so for the purposes of our very existence, we should also cultivate a particular love and appreciation for this fact, as well.

Here's the real secret you've been looking for.

You don't need to control anyone! And, you don't need to control any circumstances either!

To get control, give up control! Let it all go! Because, as soon as you realize that you don't need to control anyone... as soon as you realize that the circumstances and conditions are just fine, and they don't need to be controlled.. as soon as you no longer need to be in control... guess what?

You will realize that you are in full complete control! With this type of thinking and understanding in place, nothing can ever go wrong! You see?

Because you're in complete control.

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James J. Elleyby

Motivational Life Coach

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